A recent episode of Oprah got me thinking...do my children and grandchildren see the joy in my eyes when I see them? Do they know they are delightful to me? Not always on my part and they are not always "delightful", but I want them to remember how much joy they have brought to my life after I am gone and certainly know NOW how much I enjoy their presence in my life. My friends certainly know about the pleasure I get after a visit from my kids and grandkids. I can’t stop talking about the funny things they do and say.
Sometimes, I go through the routine of babysitting or helping out and not always with joy. This is a problem for me because I do love each moment of spending time with my family. It is mostly because it is tiring to chase after 4-7 little ones, 8 and under, and I have become used to doing my own thing for a while.
My favorite moments are the one on one conversations. It can be talking with my grandson about a video game or my son about a job opportunity. It can be asking my daughter-in-law her advise on my exercise program or my granddaughter about her Halloween costume. Putting the little ones to bed and hearing their prayers is precious. I am overwhelmed with pride and joy and when I hear my sons "talking shop" with their dad about their common profession...dentistry. I love to ask my son, the chef, for cooking advise. To see my sons as fathers is pure "DELIGHT"! All these moments create a loving memory for me and I hope for them as well.
My favorite thing to do with my grandchildren is to teach them about something I love. I started out with gardening. Do you know how many things you can teach a child when you teach them to garden? There is the seed growing into food (obviously), but then there are the insects, good and bad for the garden, the birds and rats (always bad for the garden), the sun, the rain and God. Then there are the recipes of how to prepare the food from the garden and the list goes on and on. I have spent countless hours in the garden with my grandchildren and we have always had a good time. We have our favorite things to talk about, like “Mr. Rat” or the tomato worms. My one grandson loves to pick the worms off the plants and then care for them. Do you know they morph into a beautiful moth? Also, the worms that are attracted to fennel become Black Swallowtail butterflies! What a beautiful lesson they learn while I get the joy of spending time with them!
My sister just spent 4 days with her 2 sons, their wives/girlfriends and her granddaughter. She had “delight” in her voice when she spoke about Q, her 2-year-old granddaughter.
Through the eyes of these children we are reminded of how simple life can be and how much joy we can bring to others. So go out there and be delightful, and let people know how much happiness they bring into your life.
Delight…when do you see true delight in someone’s eyes?
My son Kyle’s recent post on his blog was that his dad just celebrated his 60th birthday and he realized that he might have only 25 years left with him. Odd thought, but we hope it is a little longer than that. My mom just celebrated her 85th birthday and is living well and Paul’s grandmother died 2 years ago at the age of 99! So we have longevity in our families. Don’t worry, Kyle, we plan on being around for a while and hopefully having more delightful moments with all of you.