Wednesday, April 4, 2012


We went to a funeral today of a 91 year old man. We didn't know him, had never met him, but he was the beloved father of one of our friends from church.
I, unlike most people, like funerals. No, I am not some macabre person who likes death, but instead, I like funerals because they are so full of positive sentiments. Granted, everyone cries, but you cry for different reasons. Today I cried because it reminds me that my dad died over a decade ago and has missed so much of our life since then. I cried for Mark and his family, who now mourn their loved one. Nice things are said about the deceased and families are gathered together that might not have gathered in a while. I cry because I know sooner than later that I will be planning a funeral for my mom (who is perfectly healthy at the moment) and want to give her a lovely send-off to heaven.
There was beautiful music in church and there is nothing like a talented duo of perfectly pitched voices singing The Prayer.
I often think of what might be said at my funeral. Do I live my life in a way that wonderful things will be said about me when I die? I hope so. But, mostly I hope that I live my life to please God, to make him proud of me.
A few years ago we went to a wedding and in the priest's homily he was speaking to the couple getting married and he told them how to prioritize their life. He gave them this list and I refer to it often...
The Important Things in Life
1. God
2. Spouse
3. Children
4. Job
5. Extended Family
6. Friends
7. Hobbies (Obviously this priest was not a quilter and had his priorities just a bit mixed up...but you get the idea.) 
So today, I am rethinking a few things and reminding myself why I am on this earth. 

Thanks for stopping by,



Cindy said...

Good for you Di!

Patchwork and Play said...

Thought provoking...thanks Di!

Cindy said...

I've always liked funerals better too. It is one place where what is real is right out there for everyone to see.

Amy said...

I think funerals are meant for us to reflect on the deceased and the surviviors lives. I am sorry I have not been to visit in awhile:(
hope all is well,

Flying Blind... said...

The wisest words from you, as usual xxx

Katy Cameron said...

Yes, funerals, while sad, are often an interesting experience to learn about a person's life. It's rather a shame there aren't services like this before people die!

Josie McRazie said...

You know, recently I was asked by a very dear friend if I could sing at their infant sons funeral. I had to sadly let them know that my singing at funeral days were done. I cry for the same reasons. I bawled because it reminded me of my own little girl up there (lost 15 years ago) I cried for all the lost dreams of my friends. I cried for my friend who cannot get pregnant and feels this way every time another round of invetro does not take. I think those of us who are mothers and caretakers take these people to heart!
I totally agree that ummm hobby should be up there by spouse!! LOL can there be a tie??

Michelle said...

As a church organist, I am called upon to play for funeral services for deceased members. To me, there is no greater honor than to celebrate their lives and bring comfort to the families.

LuLu said...

That's beautiful Diane. I am always having to stop and remind myself what matters most. Thanks for this post .

Annabella said...

Lovely post Di and yes, thanks for the reminder of what`s important in life.

quilt happy said...

enjoyed this . the last one i went to the preacher just about gave the alter call and i though how comforting that preachers still do that in a funeral

susan said...

Nice thoughts to counteract a sad occasion. Thank you, Di.

Geri Centonze said...

I like funerals too because they are real...they deal with the reality of our existence and how fragile it is. Lovely post, Di.